Move from Conflict to Connection
A coaching program designed to transform arguments into opportunities for intimacy, trust, and mutual respect.
Phase 1: Deep Dive & Discovery
We begin by understanding your unique conflict profile and the emotional costs of current patterns to build a foundation for change.
Understand Your Conflict Styles
We use a simple inventory to identify your default conflict approaches. Recognizing whether you tend to collaborate, compete, or avoid is the first step toward conscious change.
Establishing Intentional Turn-Taking
From our very first session, we introduce the 'Talking Piece'—a powerful, simple tool to eliminate interruptions and enforce active listening.
Partner A Speaks
(Holds the Piece)Partner B Listens
(Cannot Interrupt)This ritual creates the space needed for both partners to feel fully heard, often for the first time.
Phase 2: Building Essential Skills
Here, we master the core techniques that stop arguments from escalating and foster genuine, empathetic understanding.
Shift from Blame to Vulnerability
We practice replacing accusatory "You always..." statements with vulnerable expressions of need like "I feel... when...". This chart shows the typical impact of each approach.
Practice Restorative Dialogue
This structured process ensures both partners feel validated before a solution is discussed. It's a game-changer for breaking cycles of misunderstanding.
1. Partner A speaks, sharing their feelings and perspective.
2. Partner B summarizes: "What I heard you say was..." and asks "Did I get that right?"
3. Only after validation does Partner B share their perspective. The process repeats.
Phase 3: Application & Sustainment
Finally, we apply these new habits to real-life challenges and establish unbreakable routines to maintain connection long-term.
Reduce Conflict Escalation
The goal is to use your new skills to de-escalate conflicts before they spiral. This chart visualizes the typical reduction in argument intensity and duration over the course of coaching.
Create a Communication Ritual
We help you build a weekly check-in to foster connection and preempt conflict. This simple routine becomes a cornerstone of a healthy partnership.
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Appreciation: What's one thing you appreciated about your partner this week?
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Challenge: What was one challenging moment for us this week?
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Need: What is one thing you need from me in the coming week?
Key Takeaways & Tools for Your Future
Establishing Intentional Turn-Taking
Concrete tools you can use from day one to stop cutting each other off and start truly listening.
Customized Repair Strategies
A clear, practiced script for how to heal the relationship quickly and effectively after a rupture.
A Shared, Collaborative Language
A proven framework that shifts your dynamic from "you vs. me" to a powerful "us vs. the problem."